Hello everyone and thank you for visitng my blog. This is my new book…The Lock on the Door. I will be sharing quotes and just blog about Christian Intimacy…
~I Want You to Know~excerpt..
Know that I desire you
with a loving heart.
I know there is more to loving
thean an early morning wake-up call.
Keep your eyes on me
I want you to know.
I’m looking at a lot of women, that are praying for change in their marriages. These women are at the brink of their breakthrough and have been for quite some time but they can’t get to it because they are worried about their husbands. This is not about their well being or what will happen in the next 5 years, this is about the husbands, aren’t changing when the wives are. Its funny how we pray and ask God to come in, but we won’t let HIM in; why?
We are to busy trying to clean house, when its not our problem. Its not your problem ladies. No matter what you try to do or what the people are saying, when you pray to God you have to leave it with HIM and let HIM handle it. He’s in control.
It’s not your problem.
Think about your prayers; if you are saying the same thing over and over and not seeing any results 1. stop saying things over and over 2. hear God and move on to the next task.
There is nothing wrong with relinquishing control? God didn’t tell you pray and handle it. He said pray I will handle it. You have the strength to run your house, do your job and run a business, while God is working on your BOO!
ITS NOT YOUR PROBLEM, DAHLIN.
Let it go. Let God do HIS job and you do what HE told you about a week ago. You’re on delay. Its time stop worrying and no that God has it in HIS hands! Get ready for your breakthrough.
I’m listening to some great music on Pandora and I’m thinking about how much I walk everyday with this undying love for my husband. No matter how things look or how things seem, or how much we might not understand each other after all these years, I can’t turn love on and off. I’m not a light switch; I’m a real woman in love with my husband…AGAIN. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W0HPswno4zo Thank you LORD for loving me so that I can still love him!
Part I written in the voice of the husband
from the perspective of the wife.
Part II written in the voice and
perspective of the wife.
Minister Dana Neal, Family 4 You
Breakthrough Ministries
© I married her to change her
© I never considered her for anything
© I never put her first
© I never helped her in her feelings
© My mother meant more than my wife ever had
© My family history was more important than my marriage
© My friendships outweighed her missing me
© I put my emotions on blast not considering hers
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I expected her to appreciate me while I never appreciated her
© I expected her to understand me and go with what I wanted
© I never considered her even in her strength
© Now, I’m living my life and she’s living hers
© We’re both single while married
© I didn’t separate from my parents
© I didn’t allow her to be an important part of my life
© I didn’t respect her spirituality
© I never, I didn’t, and I , I , I
© I put my wife on back burner for the life I wanted to have in my minds eye, not the life I should have wanted with her.
© I did everything wrong from the beginning
© I thought of me
© I lowered myself respect
© I didn’t exercise self control
© I tried to understand
© I knew I wasn’t enough
© I victimized myself
© I physically fought for recognition
© I physically fought for my life
© I made a fool of myself
© I didn’t respect his family values
© I de-valued my children; my family
© I loved hard
© I never stopped loving
© I loved God
© I challenged him
© I cared more than he did
© I was put on back burner
© ….Then I got with God and the burner doesn’t matter
There are times during my day that I hear a certain song and remember why I love my husband; its not about what he does, but who HE is; its not about what he buys, but what HE gives. I love him because of the love HE gave me.
I’m falling in love again, because HE allowed me a second chance. It was never about things, it was about feelings and I didn’t realize that I shouldn’t even walk in my feelings until I redidicated my life to HIM. He loved me enough to fight for me years and years ago, that even right now, while I remember the love for him, He fights for us both. The strength HE gives me, sometimes I don’t feel it..but I keep trying to see and grasp on to what I know.
I’m falling in LOVE again.
I’m nervous. I’m scared…I’m challenged, but I’m walking.
I want you to look at your spouse right now and remember WHY YOU GOT MARRIED not where you have been doing since then and allow HIM to help you fall in love again.
(who is the Him?..GOD)
It has been almost two years since I publish ‘the lock on the door’ intimate poetry for the married and I have learned so much about intimacy in my own home that its funny.
I have looked at the wives I have been ministering to and what God has me doing in this time and there is so much to share. In the past two years, I have hurt and been hurt; I have settled and loved; I have walked and I have crawled. I tell you that as a wife you have to decide you are going to walk with God no matter what your husband does and as a husband you have to decide the same, and push the guys out of your ear.
In two years, I have literally handed my life over to the one thing that change the circumstances and that is GOD. I have worked hard at what HE wants me to do, and tried to keep myself out of the way. In two years I have become humble.
As wives we cannot be foolish, and we cannot say what we want to say. We have to walk in love and do what is right. There is not time for games. As we hae entered into 2012, please leave all the garbage of 2011 in 2011!!! You don’t have time to walk in any foolishness and lose your marriage. Remember you reap exactly what you sow and you don’t want to go there.
In two years, I have learned that I can’t and will not do it alone. God is with me; He controls it all. In almost two years, I have learned this great lesson.
It has been some time since I been here with you to share some encouragement. Today I want to share about the new Facebook Group I have for women who are waiting on their BOAZ from the LORD.
A rare jewel is something of great value, but that you never hardly see. Its important that the jewel is well-maintained and cared for, because if its not around much, how can you find it.
God directed my paths to start a group where the rare jewels can be found and maintained until the right time.
Rare Jewels is another sub-ministry of Fam 4 U Breakthrough Ministries. We are trying to reach all women where they are and where they are going. I truly believe that we have to help them find their BOAZ not send them straight to the thief.
Please join us.
Sometimes you never know the heart is hurt until some thing comes to you and reminds you. There are times where people will never know where you are in the hurting of your heart because you have learned to hide it so; you have learned to shut out that pain. That love within is so deep and needs to be expressed or there will be bitterness. Please understand that the love of your life is your husband or your wife. You might have gotten married under the wrong pretenses, but God honors marriage and as long as you stay, He will teach you the way. There will never be the perfect marriage. Adam and Eve blamed each other, and they were the first, right? The love within…
I have looked at my life and remembered everyday why I still love, why I fall in love, why I stay in love with my husband. Its not about money, or material possessions; its not about anything on this earth, its about my choice to love. The many things love is NOT, there is one thing LOVE IS and thats within; within your heart to be shared with your spouse. Stop putting them second to everything and everyone. The only first person in your life is God. Stop acting like they are not what you expected and forcing yourself out of love and BE INLOVE…love again…from within…
To the husband I love…over and over
Its been so long this world we live in that I just thought I would stop by and say hello. Give you a token of my appreciation for you in my life and and being your wife. The ups and downs, and obstacles, its funny that my love endures and covers you everyday. I miss the relationship………
I thank God for where He is taking us. For where we are going in HIM that is more important than the people around us. I am so encouraged by the strength and push that God gives me..and I share that with you.
In my prayer time, I remember to speak those things that arent’ as though they are, and ask the devil to get back behind us as we go forth. No matter what today looks like, my dear husband, I’m committed to you. No matter what people think, I don’t give up on GOD, because HE doesn’t give up on me or us. No matter what you do, He is in control, no matter what I say HE is in control. The enemy can make either one of us jump ship if he wants to..but the enemy is NOT in control.
I just want you to know that the intimacy we share is more than sex, its’ more than kisses in passing; it is history.
The love we share is a deep connection for our future…and snipets from our past. I will never let go of what God has given me. The future holds so much, and we only have today to be concerned with! In our lives we have time to renew, and regroup…restore and recover, ….husband..are you with me?
Just close your eyes…and hear the voice of God…
Love your Wife……
There is a time when sex is just not the option. When you choose to love someone, you stay in love and you make love together. In the world you can have SEX with anyone, but you can only make love to one person.
What do you want to do? Spread yourself around to others, or SHARE yourself with one?
Making love gives you the connection you need with your wife or husband. You can’t deny them whats theirs..and thats you! I don’t care how mad you might get…making love changes it all, because you choose to love each other.
(REALLY?..DON’T GIVE ME THE WORLDS GARBAGE HERE)
OH WHAT? YOU DIDN’T KNOW THAT SAINTS HAVE SEX? Let me open the door to that!
The sweet connection of a husband and wife is so much better than an early morning booty call or a late night fling after the club with someone you hardly know.
Hey quick question: when was the last time you actually made love? When was it NOT planned? In the shower?..the hallway?…when did you spontaneously showed your spouse..its time..I miss you..I love you..I’m IN LOVE WITH YOU..and I’m not too mad to make love right now!!
There is nothing more painful than being hurt by someone you love. Someone you truly love that won’t even take the time to understand who you are. I have been there; a few times! I have been the victimizer and nothing is worth the pain. NOTHING! You have to decide that no matter where you are you have to forgive in order to be forgiven. You also have to know when you are wrong.
(from spiritually-true.blogspot.com)
The point of forgiveness is to get past what has happened and move forward. Yes, I know that saying I’m sorry over and over for the same things is not a pretty picture and not easy for the person you are hurting. I feel that sincerity in apologizing is something between you and God, my job is to forgive and vice versa. The bible says to be ye angry but sin not…that means you cannot keep going off the deep end just because you are mad. That means pull it together or you will regret what you have said or done. The bible also says that you should forgive 70 x 7..which means forgive over and over and over.
Forgiving it all.
Thats what you have to do in any relationship; especially in a marriage. Why? Your first ministry, if you know the Lord, is your marriage. You have to desire a great home life you have to want God to come in and wash every wrong; forgive others and ask for forgiveness.
Now asking for forgiveness is an entirely different story. Why? People who KNOW God feel like they are justified NOT to forgive. Yet, people that have a relationship with God know how important their salvation is later for what they do now. I find it easy to forgive, but hard to be in your face. Many ups and downs in marriages and the struggle to stay sane is hard. Yet, if you love someone you don’t hurt them. As a matter of fact, what is love? What is biblical love? Not the emotion you think you have when you have sex, what is love according to the word of God, because that’s what HE’s going to ask when you get to the end of the line, believe THAT.
So, why you study what LOVE truly is, forgive your spouse. Forgive them and ask God to help you move forward. Its up to you to do that and do it right. Its also up to you to leave what ever happened where it lays; right at the altar of forgiveness. Since you aren’t going to divorce..you better forgive.
Blessings.
