With my own experiences behind me, I think a single person needs to be able to hear completely what GOD has for them in a married person. This person could be broke busted and disgusted but God knows you both will make it together. This person could have a history book of issues, but God knows that He has prepared both to come together and help each other.
God isn’t going to give you anything you have to work on…He’s prepared both of you to accentuate the other. You can complain and complain enough to hear yourself talk, but if you don’t lean on the Lord, you will keep complaining.
There is nothing more to say, until you really look at what is in store for you through the eyes of God.