A help MEET is a helpmate.
Strong’s # 5828 (Hebrew = ezer) aid: — help
Strong’s Root = # 5826 (Hebrew = azar) azar = prime root: to surround, ie, protect or aid: help, succour
Gesenius adds that the primary idea lies in girding, surrounding, hence defending
(Hebrew = kenegdo) corresponding to, counterpart to, equal to matching (http://www.godswordtowomen.org/help.htm)
We have to be more to our husbands than we are to ourselves. We have to walk in the love and submission to God first in order to help, understand, and walk in the same with our husbands. It’s not about what WE want and how we want our husbands to be, it is about what God wants and what HE has called us to be.
As a help meet we are helping our mate/husbands not leading them. We are doing all they need from us in prayer, in love, in walking with Christ, in all that God has given us. As a help meet..we have to meet them in the middle. What are you doing as a help meet? Are you needing dirction and are you needing to know who you are as a wife? I needed to know and I know that I am wrong for a lot of things (in ministry, I know how to be transparent) but I also know that if God wanted me to give up HE wouldn’t continuously show me ME. Get in line and be a helper…not a destroyer!
Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands