When you asked God to send you a husband or show you your wife, you were asking for your HEARTS DESIRE. You seeking what God had for you.
Hopefully, you didn’t ask for tall dark and handsome, or 36-6-36. The desire of your heart was to have someone that loved God, that brought something to the table, and that wanted the best for both in the marriage.
You need to share that with your husband/wife; tell them they are YOUR HEARTS DESIRES. Never let a day go by that you don’t share your love with them or rekindle HOW IN LOVE YOU STILL ARE!