Ladies, Let Him touch YOU

Here again to share a few words about my  new book ‘a sure thing’, (place your pre-order below) and help you get FREE. Yes, I’m talking to the saved, sanctified, filled with the HOLY GHOST women who think all the curtains and blinds are open in the bedroom.

They’re not.

God is there. You are there. Your husband better be there and YOU’RE MARRIED.

Now that we have that clear, let your husband touch you. Turn the lights on and let him see you. You may hate your weight or one breast is bigger than the other, but he doesn’t care and if he does care, well, that’s something you need to talk to God about. Your thighs may be too big and or too small to you, but you’re married now, or have been married for many years. YOU’RE ALIVE, stop allowing your love to die behind closed doors.

Here’s the deal, ‘a sure thing’ is for those of you who know there is more behind the door, with the music playing LOUD, and the sheets on the floor. You are not a prude. You are not afraid, and you can fall in love again and again if you let HIM TOUCH YOU.

Be comfortable in your own skin.

Look at your body and ask yourself what can I change FOR ME? When you decide to have me time, DISCOVER YOU; what flaws do you  like or don’t like? Ask God to help ypu change them. I will by no means tell you to investigate those places for you and your husband, BY YOURSELF; take him with you. Investigate together because God meant for that intimacy to be done TOGETHER.

Consider this, ‘a sure thing’, is an example of you and your husband.

God bless!



Why ‘a sure thing’?

It only took two days to start and finish a book for the married that beats out my own poetry book ‘the lock on the door’. I had to turn the fan on as I wrote it (laugh now!).

Yet, you’re probably asking, why ‘a sure thing’? Well, men and women, who have been friends a long time, shy away from relationships with each other unless 1. they are on Hallmark, or 2. they just can’t explain it and go back to Hallmark. A sure thing is something God put together a long time ago and finally each person stopped fighting the process.

Friends know everything about each other living and breathing each other’s mistakes. Friends know exactly what you bring to the table and say we bring a full meal, together, to the table. Friends hear you and respond to what you’re saying.

So why not? Why  not ‘a sure thing’ filled with weddings, marriages, love-making and real LOVE?

Again, it burns my gears that Christians don’t talk about how INTIMATE you can be in your bedrooms. We only share the marriage bed is undefiled…okay..what does that mean?

Let me be the first (or maybe the second) to say this:

  1. Love yourself.
  2. Accept yourself.
  3. Love your spouse for whom they are not whom you want them to be (get counseling if necessary)
  4. Love with the lights on.
  5. Moan, touch, squeeze, the parts on your spouses body you’ve been afraid to touch.
  6. Empty nesters, walk around the house naked–get to know your body outside the bedroom.
  7. Think about this: we would be naked if Eve and Adam hadn’t SINNED in their nakedness.


God bless …pre-order ‘a sure thing’ by completing the form below!

If She Only Knew

Here is another part of the new book from ‘Mike’s’ perspective:


Sitting in his office, he allowed his mind to drift about her. He knew the visions were becoming more real, and more intense, in his life. Mike was afraid it was a trick of the enemy. Seeing this woman almost every night in every dream started to scare him, but somehow, someway, Mike felt like these visions and dreams would become a reality.

He blushed, thanking God he was alone, as he recalled waking up one morning with such intensity in his manhood he was almost ashamed.

“Almost.” He whispered to himself. His cell phone pulled him out of his day dreaming; it was his pastor. “Pastor Whitlow, how are you?”

“I’m good Michael; I was just checking on you because you crossed my mind this afternoon. Bishop said to give you a call.”

Straightening up in his chair Mike looked around the office as if he were being watched. He knew his pastor and her husband walked strongly in the prophetic. “Well, ma’am, I’m good.”

“Are you retiring this year, Mike?”

“I plan to.” He responded.

“Are you dating, Mike?” She asked slowly.

“Uhm, No ma’am.”

“Mike, I’ve had a vision of you with a woman; this woman was in the hospital.”

He cleared his throat and said, “I’m not sure whom that is, Pastor Whitlow.”

“Mike, tell me you haven’t had these same visions.”

He let the phone drop slightly from his ear as he pondered lying to her; he knew he couldn’t, but he, too, couldn’t explain this woman or even share what her name is.

“I’ve had the same visions, Pastor.” He responded reluctantly.

“She’s your wife, Mike.”


Dana Williamson

Writer, Author, Coach, Minister of the Gospel

It’s not LUST if You’re Married

One of the things I know having been a wife, is that when I would think of making love sessions, my thoughts went to my husband. I didn’t fantasize about anyone else, and it wasn’t really a fantasy. It was a thought of what was about to GO DOWN with my husband later that day, that night, etc.

It’s not lust if you’re married and thinking of your husband. It’s not lust if you’re having hot and steaming LOVE MAKING with your husband. What is lust and sinful, etc, is when you have to think of someone to get aroused, when you watch pornography, when everything outside your bedroom has to help you in your bedroom.

Get it together saints!

Love on, and with, your SPOUSE!

The Expectations of Love

As I finish the books God has set forth for me to write, I look at each character and find my readers. In Damia there is myself, but in Reed there is my future husband. In book eight, the weight of being the head of the house, the bishop, and the leader gets to be too much for Reed; he tries to make the decision to run away or stay.

Below I will share the heart wrenching words that won’t be published until the fall, but I ask you this: What are you expectations of LOVE from your spouse? When you ask them to be on the same page what exactly does that mean? Is that just your page or their page? When do you create a story that shows you as one, not as two?

Throughout this blog we have talked about the LORD and what He desires for our lives as married people, but we are still lacking in understanding what love is. Here is Reed’s cry for help from two parts of book eight.

In his mind, he thought about quitting. Reed thought about going back to the beginning of his life when Damia left Milwaukee. Reed contemplated purchasing a ticket to the states and returning to Wisconsin a retired law enforcement officer with a home in the northern part of the state.

“I just ….” He started; he looked over at Damia filled with great emotion. He couldn’t hold back his tears. “I can’t do this.” Reed dropped his head in his right hand squeezing Damia’s hand with the other.

“Reed…” Damia said.

“Get up.” Anthony said to her, “Move over here by Sabrina.” Damia had to snatch her hand away to move from Reed; he wouldn’t let go.

Anthony and Peter sat next to Reed and started to pray. The women sat in silence praying in their heads as God took over the inside of the Jet.

The power of prayer in numbers helps those we love to keep them from getting lost.

“Help me, my love. Help me.” Reed fell to his knees started crying buckets of tears. “I’m so sorry. I need you, Damia. I need your help. I know I need God and I know he’s here, but I need you. I’m afraid I’ll wake up and the rapture would have come and you’re gone. That we’re both gone and I would have forgotten you. I would have forgotten all of what I’ve been doing for almost a year. I need you Damia! I’m scared this interview will cause you to be vulnerable and in all that we know God is around us that someone will hurt you and take you from me. I love you. There isn’t anything else I want to do without you Damia and there isn’t anything I want to ever do alone. I’m not that man. I’m not. I want to protect you for the rest of your life until I DIE FIRST. OH my God…”

Damia was on her knees holding her husband as he cried rocking him back and forth. “My God.”


What are your expectations of love?

1 Corinthians 13 (NKJV)

The Greatest Gift

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned,[a]but have not love, it profits me nothing.

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.


King and Queen Chronicles: Partners

This is short and sweet as we go into the  new year:




When you make decisions in life thinking of the TWO OF YOU as ONE, you understand that conversations may be hard and you may  not agree all the time, but when you are determined to win, you will WIN.


God bless.


Dana Williamson

King and Queen Chronicles: Do what works

Every day someone is contemplating divorce or getting divorced; today think about what you need to do to stay married. That means doing what works.

What works?

  • Take the time to remember how you fell in love and bring that back, or increase it.
  • Take time away just for the two of you and keep up with what you want and desire for your lives together.
  • Remember that God is the 3rd strand of your marriage; pray together.
  • Remember to keep people out of your business.
  • Never under estimate the power of prayer in your spouse.

Do what works.

Dana Williamson

Going to the Throne

Father God,

I stand here today praying for my king. I am praying for, wherever he is right now thanking you in advance for bringing us together for kingdom building.

Lord, you have put us in a place to see each other again, but are preparing us, individually to be in a place to love each other as you love us. We are not conforming to the world Lord God; I thank you for the mind to choose you and pray for those that haven’t yet.

Lord I ask you to cover my king as waits for the appointed time you have given him;  the proper time to do what is necessary for us to be husband and wife. I ask you Lord to keep me, clean me, and prepare me for my king.

I ask you Lord to walk with us as we are awake, and even asleep; help us to see you at work in our lives. Cleanse us of anything that may be impure, lustful, etc, that goes against your word.

Father, in the name of your son JESUS, I ask you these things as I continue to obey and do what you have commanded me to in ministry and in business. Lord, my king is your son; keep him safe on earth; keep him safe at his job; keep him safe from harm and the enemy that tries to come up against him and the plan you have for his life. In Jesus name..amen.



King and Queen Chronicles: The Same Page

Forgiving it All

My husband used to tell me we need to be on the same page, but we weren’t even looking at the same life. (that’s another message)

Although we’re friends now, what happened in our marriage was a lack of understanding each other in order to be on the same page. Some of you may be saying oh that’s communication; no, its understanding each other. Understand that you may be total opposites, but love brings opposites together IF they understand that. Love is the glue in the middle of most misconceptions, miscommunication, and not being on the same page. If you don’t have true unconditional love, you can’t even fathom what you don’t understand.

So what do you do?

Well look at the picture above; you forgive yourself for not taking a moment to put your spouse first. You forgive even though it hurts. You turn the page, from the mess on this page, and you get a clean sheet and start over. Sit down and listen to your king or queen, and understand them. Listen with your whole heart, not your bottom line. In the end you will be on the same page of understanding, communication, and most of all LOVE!!


Dana Williamson

King and Queen Chronicles: Loving and Living

You are never too married to date.


You must love on each other so much that you can’t wait to get a night alone. A night alone is not just sex behind closed doors; it’s dinner or a movie; walks in the park/beach, drives in the country. Alone time is loving and living.

Rekindle the Love

Date night is getting away from family, friends, bars (I’m just saying…you have an entourage at a bar), and time together.

So when you rekindle the love what are you thinking of-times with others or with your spouse. Consider getting a hotel room in the next nearest state, or in another county. Consider a weekend getaway with limited cell phones; consider anything that will help you rekindle the love.

Date night..make it one to remember every time you get together!


Dana Williamson